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Post Options Post Options   Thanks (5) Thanks(5)   Quote ranonranonarat Quote  Post ReplyReply Direct Link To This Post Posted: 19 Apr 2012 at 8:25am
hate to be the negativity guy but just got out of a 3 year old long distance relationship on saturday. first love. wow, some crazy shit it is, we were spending 90% of our time apart and maintaining everything via skype and whatsapp. it feels crazy and i was snapping in and out of a mix of different emotions between love, hate, sadness and denial. been a pretty destructive person but im trying to get better. it sucks but i still want to remain best friends because that's pretty much what we've been/we were before we got into it. people have advised me against it but sometimes i think you gotta get into it yourself before you understand what everyone else is trying to say. getting better and trying harder every single day. still miss and love her like crazy. those were really good times that im really going to miss a lot.


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Post Options Post Options   Thanks (2) Thanks(2)   Quote fardin Quote  Post ReplyReply Direct Link To This Post Posted: 19 Apr 2012 at 11:09am
well first i am sorry to hear that you seperated, i have been through a long distance relationship too, so i know how it feels, for beeing best friends again it takes time, i am sure it is possible, but maybe not right away. wish you the best ran, i know as most of us here that breaking up is hard to do
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Post Options Post Options   Thanks (2) Thanks(2)   Quote Bob Dale Quote  Post ReplyReply Direct Link To This Post Posted: 19 Apr 2012 at 11:38am
sorry to hear it Ranon, keep your chin up
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Post Options Post Options   Thanks (2) Thanks(2)   Quote Dr_Heech Quote  Post ReplyReply Direct Link To This Post Posted: 19 Apr 2012 at 12:21pm
Feeling for you Ranon.Broken Heart
When my marriage broke up nearly three years ago, I really thought my life was over.  I really was at rock bottom.  My friend, who witnessed my subsequent breakdown, explained to me that life is emotionally a transient experience - we simply just go through a series of peaks and troughs.
 
Time is the greatest healer, when all else fails.
 
Hope you guys can work it out, however the outcome.
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Post Options Post Options   Thanks (2) Thanks(2)   Quote Maynard Fried-San Quote  Post ReplyReply Direct Link To This Post Posted: 19 Apr 2012 at 2:01pm
Ranon, like the others I'm also sorry to hear this and In my experience (and believe me, I've had plenty!), time is the only thing that will make you feel better about it. I think Dr Heech is spot on with the peaks and troughs theme - surely that's better than an emotional flatline existence? Sometimes we learn from experience, sometimes we don't and just do the whole thing over again, but so what? That's what life's about.

Keep your chin up/ wallow and eat ice cream/ get drunk/ do what's right for you and gradually that chink of daylight will get brighter and brighter.

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thank you all the advice and support, it is especially nice to hear from people like you guys whom although i have never met, feel a connection to. certainly seems tough when going through a mix of emotions all while trying to cope with work. been a bit of a crazy week but im glad the weekend is here which does make things a lot easier. been almost a week now, wound is still fresh but hopefully it starts to scab. definitely going to be a bit more cautious with love/emotions now. it is always going to be sad when the person you love becomes the person you loved.

thanks fardin and robbie for the support. really comforting words.

heech, im sorry to hear about that but im glad for you that you gotten a lot better and have seen through everything. now, you have your wonderful little boy and definitely a lot of things to look forward to in life together with him. :)

mf, cannot agree with you more about really having lived and felt pain and joy rather than a plateau of emotions. it is going to be a slow pickup from here but i guess that is how life is going to work out. that's life i guess, you always have to fight through and nothing comes easy but then at least you enjoy the fruits of your own labour and everything will be sweeter than if it was just a given to you.
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This evening my Grandmother passed away.

i will miss her dearly, she was an incredible woman.


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im really sorry to hear that robbie, my thoughts are with you at this moment...

celebrate life, don't mourn death. stay strong my friend.
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After going back and forth about it, I finally decided to go behind my father's back and talk to his psychiatrist.  Increased inability to focus, agitation, mood swings, taking everything as criticism and a personal attack and turning it into a confrontation, obsessive behavior, etc.  Told him I know dad's cutting some of his pills to decrease dosage, but don't know if that's his heart/ high blood meds or he psychiatric medications (though I assume the latter).  I know the Dr can't discuss my fathers care with me, but he could have cared less about what I had to say, chalked up dad's confrontational-ism as "just his personality", and just wanted to get off the phone as quickly as possible.  Pretty disappointing, and not sure where to go from here.  Can't talk to dad in his current state, because like I said, if I say anything he disagrees with, it becomes a confrontation, he shuts down, and runs to his room and hides..... The most basic fucking things like "are these clothes (that are scattered all over the house) clean or dirty (so I can put them in the closet or the hamper)?" or "please don't leave your prescription pill bottles sitting on the coffee table where the dog can get at them" becomes a reason for him to have an anxiety attack and run to his room.  I'm afraid I'm going to wake up some day to find my dog overdosed and dead because he finally thought dad's pills smelled tasty.  Been dealing with my father's mental illness for going on 25 years.  Until the past few years, it was generally a winter thing where from November through March he was worthless.   Now it's getting to the point where his lows and highs aren't as dramatically different, but the depression is year round, and it's making me sick and filling me with resentment toward him.  
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Is there anyone he talks to (other than his psychiatrist) who he feels he can relate to easier? Someone who isn't directly involved in the situation who could maybe give you a steer?

I would have expected the psychiatrist to be a bit more helpful. That seems very dismissive. He has a duty of care to the patient and although he's also bound by confidentiality, if he has the patients best interests at heart then surely he could give some guidance!!

(not that I have any experience in any of this...)

Are you dealing with this alone? Do YOU have any support?
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